“You should never sacrifice yourself in an attempt to save someone else. You cannot save anyone but yourself. When you make a strong commitment for something important that represents the next step in your evolution, you need to put boundaries around it and protect it from all the energies that are not compatible. This may require some hard choices of cutting off certain relationships, practices, habits and influences. If it does not feel good, say no and don’t do it. If it feels good, say yes and go for it. You don’t need to know how or why.” – Lena Stevens, The Power Path
Ya know when you’re happily moving along in your life, thinking everthing is normal and then you get a phone call… and the universe throws you a curve ball that starts you spinning into total chaos?
Yeah. Well, welcome to my Saturday.
I know we’ve all been there. Sooo in the interest of being self-loving and giving myself some much-needed encouragement at this moment… I decided to pull out the above quote for sustenance.
In fact, I think I’m going to write it on a Post-it note and carry it around in my pocket today. It’ll be a good moment-to-moment reminder and hopefully help me maintain my sanity.
Me brain is struggling right now to juggle a lot of deep-emotion-triggering new information. Gotta pull out some major inspiration to counter-act the crazy.
This one’s a goodie too…
“Remember that you cannot please everyone and you certainly cannot fix or heal anyone else but yourself. In the area of boundaries, be responsible for what is yours and not for what isn’t. It is very simple even though we try and make it complicated.” – Lena Stevens, The Power Path
Complicated? Yeah. How about PAINFUL?! Bleh. Emotions are so annoying sometimes. I mean, I’m glad to have empathy… otherwise I’d be some kind of sociopath, but at a certain point... some boundaries need to be set. Truly.
Breathe. It’s all going to work out fine, Wilcox. No need to freak out. Take comfort in your Post-it note. Go do one or two of your 5 daily practices that lead to happiness.
Let it be.
Wishing you all a sane Saturday, devoid of curve-balls… or if not… maybe you can join me in some Post-it-note-carrying-wisdom!
Loves,
V
“We can throw stones, complain about them, stumble on them, climb over them, or build with them.” – William Arthur Ward
It can be so hard to remember this, specially when someone is letting you know that "you are being very selfish". I usually say to myself "you are no f*****g saint" and this somehow allows me to do whatever I want.
ReplyDeleteI love it!!! My favorite quote on the subject of selfishness is this... "Those who label others as selfish are actually concerned with their own well-being... depending on others to live "unselfishly" is still depending upon others." - Mike Dooley. I really believe that a healthy amount of selfishness is a GOOD thing. That word has a negative reputation. But too me, I like to embrace my selfishness, because the more that I take care of myself, the more that I have to give... and the happier I am to give it. So let your selfish flag fly!!! :-)
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